Doing social media & blogging my way..


You know what I have realised.. it is better to do things how you want to and not because it is a ‘trend’ or you think it is what you should be doing. Staying true to yourself is what is  important, yes flat lays are stunning and having highlights on your Instagram page is cool but if it’s not you, then that’s ok.

At the moment I don’t know why but I feel this big pressure, to get big numbers on social media and to take pictures that don’t necessarily fit my style. As I scroll through my Instagram, my Twitter  and my Youtube I find myself constantly comparing my work and follower count to others. I feel like all of my social media is very much me, what you see is me and therefore I don’t wish to change it at all, but it is jus the pressures of socal media..Here are a few things I want to get off my chest:

I love a good flat lay don’t get me wrong, but not every day is flat lay day. Sometimes I want a normal / natural picture that isn’t as set up as flat lay I DON’T WANT my Instagram to be full with flat lay pictures because that isn’t my style. I blog about a lot of different topics and I feel like in a way my Instagram reflects that. I want one minute someone to be looking at a picture of mascara and then the next to be looking at popcorn, what I am trying to say is that yes ok, the photography is going to always be on point 😉 but I DONT WANT A THEME TO MY INSTAGRAM. Maybe, around certain times of year such as Christmas, New Years and even now because of Valentines day but in general I don’t want to “have” to stick to a theme because it makes it look professional or more of a blogger or whatever. My Instagram is my Instagram and I will post what I want to and when. To me, having a really polished, themed flat layer Instagram isn’t me, and I doubt it is really anyone.

“NUMBERS DON’T MEAN ANYTHING IF YOU ARE A SHIT PERSON”  is what I tweeted the other day, because I see so many people online that have a large following and they abuse that. Numbers don’t matter at all, if you love what you are doing and what you are putting out there then why should It matter? I guess it just naturally does because everyone wants to have a bigger following and it is what is concerned “better” by society at the moment. I have a great following across all of my social media and I am very grateful for that. I am just trying to focus on enjoying everything I am putting out there rather than stressing if one person unfollows me ( let’s face it, there is always going to be that one little shit that will unfollow you when you get to a new milestone )

I only want to do things that suit me, and if that makes me seem like less “blogger” because I don’t have a perfect themed Instagram and don’t have outfit pictures, here there and everywhere, then fair enough. I don’t want to follow what is expected of society. Everyone blogger is different, every blogger has their own styles and every blogger has their own journey. DON’T COMPARE YOURSELF.

What are your thoughts on this? Can you agree? ( would love to hear your thoughts xo )


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  1. February 10, 2018 / 5:30 pm

    Give yourself sometime to grow, alot of the big numbers are created artificially as well. Be organic and stay positive

    • February 13, 2018 / 1:51 pm

      I know, that is coming out a lot at the moment too. People are buying their followers, which to me is just embarrassing

  2. February 10, 2018 / 6:52 pm

    Totally agree with this! I think one of the biggest attributes to being a successful blogger is remaining true to yourself and just taking your followers on that journey of what a life “being you” looks like. Bloggers wouldn’t be all that great if we simply copied each others styles all the time. Great post xx

    • February 13, 2018 / 1:50 pm

      Thank you. I 100% agree. I think people want that more then people faking it, if you know what I mean. I agree! very important I think! thank you xx

  3. February 10, 2018 / 7:40 pm

    I definitely agree with the whole insta theme thing! if I like it I’m posting it, idc if it doesn’t go with a ‘theme’ I can’t have that stress in my life lol 😂 I love your attitude girl, I’d much rather see you being YOU than being a ‘perfect blogger’ or w.e 🙌🏻

    • February 13, 2018 / 1:48 pm

      Thank you! I think that a lot of people can relate to the Instagram one. EXACTLY, who needs that extra stress. yes it looks nice, but if it isn’t you then you don’t need to do it. Thank you!! yes same here! thanks girl! xxx

  4. February 10, 2018 / 9:15 pm

    Yes Soph…I think you got it right on the nose. Having a theme or following a trend yes the theme looks pretty but are you being individual…no. Not meaning you babe just other SHEEPS. I love your content and the way you are on twitter and Instagram stories you are funny and unique. Don’t ever change babe xxxx

    • February 13, 2018 / 1:44 pm

      Thank you girl! exactly! to me it just looks like a bit false and the nicest way possible. Thank you so much, I’m glad that you like them! thanks girl, you too! xxxx

  5. February 10, 2018 / 11:31 pm

    I love this, totally agree👏👌 xx

  6. February 11, 2018 / 5:11 pm

    Couldn’t agree more! Creativity and good writing will win every time for me over themes and fancy extras Xx

    • February 13, 2018 / 1:52 pm

      YES! DEFINITELY! more people need to realise this I think xx

  7. aimsysantics
    February 12, 2018 / 9:25 pm

    Love this! Keep doing you! I think staying true to yourself gains more respect than the number of followers you have. I guess the ‘unthemed’ is your ‘theme’ 😁
    I will deffo be following this mantra anyway.
    Aimsy xoxo

    • February 13, 2018 / 1:42 pm

      Thank you! Yes I 100% agree and I think that people can see through it, and know that it isn’t the real you. True haha! I mean it isn’t completely unthemed, I just don’t want the pressure of there being a theme. more people need to I think! xxx

  8. February 13, 2018 / 11:34 am

    YES! Oh we need more people like you in the world my wonderful girl. I recently took this stance with social media – including my own mini IG-challenge in October – to “stupefy the algorithm” as i saw it (because a Harry Potter reference is ALWAYS a good idea!)
    I realised how much little details were getting me down, things i would advocate against for anyone else. So i set a challenge to just “be me”. I wanted to post more frequently, as anxiety often made me overanalyse each image far too much! I also used my captions as more of a “micro-blog”, opening up about my anxiety and being far less “filtered”. It helped so much!
    That being said, in the past month my old worries/comparisons have started to creep back. Seeing this couldn’t have come at a better time! On that note, i’m off to delete that GOLDEN tweet of yours and celebrate being a “non-shitty, non-filtered person” 😀
    Bumble and Be

    • February 18, 2018 / 6:13 pm

      Haha! thank you!!! Ooo love a bit of Harry Potter! It’s good that you were posting and felt like more yourself. That you could open up a bit more. YAS! I loved this comment it made me laugh quite a bit. I definitely think that people need to stop acting as if everything is perfect, because it isn’t. x

  9. February 15, 2018 / 11:59 am

    You go, girl! Couldn’t agree more. I also have zero themes on my Instagram and my twitter is where I more or less vent through happiness or retweet a bunch of things I don’t have guts to say haha.
    Keep being yourself, it’s better to read/see. Definitely lifted me up that’s for sure 🙂 xxx

    • February 18, 2018 / 6:23 pm

      Thank you!! Ah girl!! Thank you. I agree too. I much prefer to read / watch something where I know they are 100% being theirselves. Im glad I could help!! xxx

  10. February 18, 2018 / 12:15 pm

    I’m glad that other people feel this way. I am always feeling the pressure to focus on growing numbers but what I actually want is quality followers who actually like what I post. I think blogging is such a individual thing so it is so easy to compare yourself but you have to remember to be true to yourself and blog because you love it.

    • February 18, 2018 / 6:11 pm

      Yes, I know what you mean. it is ok to have like a lot of followers, but if you have a lot that don’t engage with what you are posting then its different. I agree!

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